Wednesday, February 9, 2011

The Thing About the Worse-Thing-Ever (Peace Corps Transition) Conference

February 3, 2011

WARNING: This blog entry is a critique of various politics and processes within the Peace Corps and is therefore boring. It is also full of my opinions, which I find largely hazardous. Further, let me preface this entry by saying, I’m not trying to give Peace Corps bad press. I wrote this largely as catharsis. After everything I still think the Peace Corps is a good, valuable program. I love being a volunteer and would enthusiastically encourage others to apply. I also want to point out I was a bit (completely) emotional during this conference and so recognize I am less than objective when talking about it. Finally, I want to say, in spite of my frustration with the conference, every member of the transition conference staff was nothing but sympathetic, respectful, and honest (though artfully evasive) during our time together. No one behaved badly. But that doesn’t change the fact the conference was bad.


Here’s why: Things move slowly out in the Peace Corps world. So, when trying to find new posts for evacuated volunteers, it takes time (like more than a few hours) for a country director to verify a post is ready or investigate potential sites. The transition conference I attended, however, gave country directors one weekday, eight work hours (plus a weekend, but nothing happens on the weekend in Peace Corps) to find posts for transfers.


Volunteers were given four days to simultaneously close their service, see a Peace Corps shrink to process the evacuation, decide whether or not to proceed with Peace Corps, find out if they could proceed with Peace Corps, and come up with a number of contingency plans in case something or everything didn’t work out. (Please note: closing service is a long process involving medical exams, lots of paper work, career and readjustment sessions. The sessions alone normally last a week. The volunteer then has three months to make next-steps plans and prepare to readjust to America, which is widely acknowledged to be the hardest part of Peace Corps.)


You may ask, why the rush? According to the Peace Corps, they didn’t have enough money to host a longer transition conference.


But, here’s the thing: I understand the Peace Corps doesn’t have an unlimited budget and things are especially tricky right now under continuing resolution; but how can the Peace Corps expect its volunteers to remain committed to the institution and thus, to their work and thus, the very idea of Peace Corps, when the Peace Corps is seemingly apathetic towards its volunteers?


Bottom line: The Peace Corps should have given ALL interested, medically-cleared volunteers at least some option to transfer to another country and finish his or her service. Even if it took time. Even if it cost money.


What actually happened: The conference was rushed, making the process exponentially more stressful for volunteers and preventing country directors from being able to find direct transfer posts. Whenever and wherever possible volunteers were discouraged and disqualified from direct transferring. The process of granting direct transfers itself was painfully bureaucratic and not at all transparent. In spite of the enduring commitment displayed by the 98 Niger evacuees, the transition staff made it abundantly clear to us they would rather we just go home and start the 27 months over if we wanted to continue with Peace Corps. Finally, the Peace Corps wasted an absurd about of money lodging 98 volunteers, plus staff in a super fancy hotel while telling us they didn’t have enough money to host a longer conference. A longer conference would have made more transfers possible. Balls.


So, now let’s back up and I will tell you how why I think all the things I think. But first…


…What was the Transition Conference? The Transition Conference I attended in Morocco was lead by a team of Peace Corps savants from all over the world. They wrote out goals for the conference. I remember there were three of them…


Several administrative whosits and whatsits officers came from D.C.; medical professionals from Morocco and already-evacuated Mauritania were there to take our blood and look at our poop. The proverbial feather in the team’s cap came all the way from southern Africa—we’ll call her Sylvia. Sylvia is a Peace Corps evacuee herself, and now the country director of some African country. She was very no-nonsense and likable, minus her overuse of dramatic pauses in presentations. She seems to have earned a name for herself as Peace Corps’ go-to, lead-a-transition-conference woman. Now I see she really earned a name for herself as the go-to, lead-a-transition-conference-for-cheaper-than-anyone-else-can woman. And of course, several staff members from Niger were there, including the country director, Valerie, and our beloved Tondi, the training manager. (Note: except the country director’s thumbs up or thumbs down, the Niger staff was completely excluded from the transfer process.)


My experience: I was “lucky” and left Niger on the first group flight, arriving in Morocco Friday. My group spent Saturday and Sunday taking care of medical exams and taking our first deep breaths since receiving the call. I got to see the ocean. I don’t know what I would have done without those two days to reorient myself outside the vacuum of the evacuation.


(Me showing how sad I was.)

The other group got to the hotel late Monday. It was then we were told in few words the Peace Corps didn’t have enough money to give all those who wanted them direct transfers and most of us were going home. It was then I understood Sylvia’s talent as a transition conference leader. Not only did she come across as (dramatic pause) empathetic, she managed our expectations in the same way you could say that iceberg managed the Titanic. Nonchalant, but decisive. Despondent as I was then, I now see how strategic it was to sink all our transfer hopes. After convincing us we were already on our way out the door, she made transferring and staying a PCV seem like something we should be lips-on-the-ground grateful for.


I think this manipulation of perception made most of us forget the obvious: we already were PCVs.


Yeah, that was Monday evening. Tuesday we closed our services. Wednesday afternoon we heard what our options for continuing service were. Thursday we had to tell the transition team our preferences. That afternoon, we heard whether or not we could stay or if we didn’t make the cut, and had to go home. Saturday by eleven AM, we had to be out of the hotel. Please rearrange your life in four days, while at the same time processing a major life trauma and saying good-bye to your principal support network…no big deal.


What was this like? It was like being caught in a blinding, hotel-shaped vortex, in which my power to plan beyond the next day, sometimes the hour, was zapped away. It was one of the worst experiences of my life…up there with falling off the chairlift in ski school. I imagine everyone, like me, felt a thousand things at once: panicked, traumatized, horrified, alone, overwhelmed by the crowd, aching with hope for a transfer, inconsolable, needing to be consoled, heartbroken, cranky, anxious to seize our last hours together, and unbelievably exhausted. And, underneath it all, there was this vague “hum” of competition over who would get what post. Especially, we wondered which training class would get preference for new posts. Do they want the new kids who still have two years of service ahead of them or the old kids who have more experience?


The different training classes had all been in-country for different amounts of time: 18 months, six months, and three months, plus a handful of third-year volunteers. Those in country three months were only in their villages for eight days before being evacuated. Naturally we all had very different reactions to the evacuation, but the one common thread amongst all the training classes was the resounding desire to continue with our service. Upon arriving in Morocco, I am aware of only four or five volunteers who were certain they wanted to close their service. We loved it. We wanted to stay.


What bothers me: Rather than the staff being heartened by this display of commitment to the Peace Corps program and goals, whenever and wherever possible volunteers were discouraged and disqualified from direct transferring. Worse, somehow they made it seem like an honor and a privilege to remain what we already were, Peace Corps Volunteers.


No matter the reason, there were some low blows: One of my friends wasn’t medically cleared because of a skin rash that would heal within a couple weeks. Another friend was disqualified because her lab tests would take too long for a direct transfer…as in they wouldn’t be done in four days. Yet another friend was in America when we got evacuated and wasn’t even given the chance to talk about direct transferring. It was clear during the “counseling sessions” we were being mentally screened. We had to get a positive recommendation from our old country director, who I love, but who’d only been in country six months. (I don’t think that’s enough time to make a life-changing recommendation for all 98 Niger volunteers.) Finally, in spite of the fact we’d all successfully passed the yearlong application process, we had to interview with a placement officer, which felt a great deal like interviewing for a job we’d already gotten.


Not to mention the process of declaring our transfer preferences for transfer posts was a hilariously nonsensical display of bureaucratic rigidity. Let me ‘splain: When a volunteer joins Peace Corps she is assigned a number, which indicates her assignment area. For example, she might be assigned as a NGO developer and given the code 145. In spite of her strong public health background and the fact her work in Niger had nothing to do with NGO development, this volunteer can only work at posts with the same code. Keep in mind the codes assigned to posts are often as arbitrary as codes assigned to volunteers. So, basically, Peace Corps assigns a volunteer a code that has little to do with her qualifications and then, based on that code, assigns a volunteer to a post with the same code, which has little to do with the actual work the post will require. We had to limit our transfer preferences to posts that matched our codes. Sylvia told us (in so many words) the fires of hell would rain down upon us if we dared request a post that didn’t match our code. For many volunteers, no matching posts were offered.


An example of how little sense this made: At my new post in Dosso, the Peace Corps had all but approved me to partner with an orphanage as my primary assignment. I, however, was not eligible for a post in Rwanda working with an orphanage because the codes didn’t match. I understand the Peace Corps needs ways to organize its volunteers and the work they do, but this kind of inflexibility boarders on stupidity. (Another fun quirk: administratively, the Peace Corps doesn’t recognize Morocco part of Africa.)


(Me & My Friend Nick in Fes)

After all that, the procedure for selecting who would be offered direct transfers was not at all transparent. No exaggeration: we gave them a list of our preferences and the transition staff locked themselves in a room and emerged four hours later with a list of transfers. To frustrate us further, if a volunteer who’d been offered a post decided he didn’t want to transfer after all, his post wasn’t offered to another interested, eligible volunteer.


The really painful thing is, as volunteers, the Peace Corps constantly reminds of the commitment we’ve made. Our country director even handed out actual wallet-sized cards with a list of Peace Corps’ expectations for volunteers. Things like: you’re expected to serve for the full two years, you’re on duty 24/7, you’re obliged to present the Peace Corps positively, you must stay in your village as much as possible (this isn’t a vacation).


They also ask us to be flexible: flexible when applying, flexible about when you go, flexible about where you go, flexible about the work you will do, flexible when adapting to the new culture, flexible when getting posts, flexible when moving posts, flexible when moving posts again because you have a crazy landlord, flexible when falling in latrines, flexible when being evacuated. And the truth is, we don’t mind. In spite of everything, I still think Peace Corps is one of the most amazing things I’ve ever done.


But…after being so flexible and committed for 18 months…then arriving in Morocco and hearing the Peace Corps was likely to cut my service 9 months short (for others 21 months short) with seemingly little consideration, I had to ask, isn’t the Peace Corps willing to be flexible and committed to its volunteers? Rather than going the it’s-easier-and-cheaper-to-send-everyone-home-route, shouldn’t they have worked to find posts for these obviously committed volunteers?


Every volunteer knows readjusting is cited as the hardest part of a Peace Corps service; but being sent home early is more than just emotionally disruptive. Imagine having to rebuild a life for yourself, including finding a job, apartment, a city to live in, etc. while facing no-longer-deferred student loans, and with a smaller readjustment allowance than you’d expected. (Please note: the Peace Corps does give returned volunteers one month of free heath insurance.) My point is cutting our service short is a big deal—both emotionally and financially disruptive. This is no small thing.


Regarding volunteer care: to be clear, I do think in general the Peace Corps does enough for its volunteers. And I don’t mean “enough” as in they go above and beyond, can’t do more. Rather, I mean to say they do enough to keep going—they keep us healthy and safe and offer some career help afterward. (Sorry ABC news, but I felt safer in Niger than I do in Seattle.) But, looking at how much the Peace Corps asks of its volunteers, I think they should add to its list of minimum commitments finding a way (in times like these) for volunteers to complete their tenure. Basically, I think the Peace Corps is obligated to uphold their end of the deal: two years.


Again, let me concede accommodating every volunteer may not always be possible, but the Peace Corps staff should make their best effort. And, in our case, I don’t think that happened. The mismanagement of the transition conference grew more evident as time passed. Most volunteers recognize pretty quickly how ridiculous it was for the Peace Corps to cite the budget as a reason we couldn’t transfer while lodging and feeding 98 volunteers plus staff in a 200-USD-per-night hotel. We got catered snacks in between sessions; including fresh squeezed orange juice and artsy cookies. There was a gym and a spa. I enjoyed the hot baths, but would have been just has happy take cold showers at another country’s training site if it meant more people getting posts.


Sylvia talked a lot, but one thing she didn’t tell us is: it is actually possible to find everyone posts if you are willing to wait more than four days. Yes, there is a direct relationship between time waited and available posts. If we’d been able to stay somewhere cheaper, longer, directors in other countries could had more than a day to find more posts for transferring volunteers. After arriving in Senegal, I heard many Peace Corps countries were scrambling to find posts for us, but just needed another 48 hours or so. Even more upsetting, I learned one country director who was already taking some direct transfers said, if only she’d known there were more volunteers wanting spots she could have taken more.


One of my good volunteer friends was evacuated from a Peace Corps country before, and was given a direct transfer to Niger to finish his service. He ended up extending, only to be evacuated again from Niger. BUT, at his original transition conference everyone who wanted to (and was medically cleared to) finish his or her service was given the opportunity to direct transfer. It took four weeks, but I think the time was worth it. I know plenty of now Returned PCVs who would have been willing to wait.


Hearing how obtainable posts really were just makes me feel as though the Peace Corps sees its volunteers as completely disposable. “Don’t worry about these volunteers, we can get new ones.” During the conference, I kept brainstorming jokes about the Peace Corps giving us paper cuts or kicking us in the shins, just in case they were looking to add injury to insult. I still haven’t come up with a good one.


In the Peace Corps defense: Volunteers are eligible to start over, and for the newer kids that’s not such a pain. Also, they did invent a whole new process from transferring evacuated volunteers just for us. I won’t go into the specifics (boring), but let me say this creativity and flexibility did give more volunteers the chance to transfer. Also, a member of the transition staff told me I had the right to be angry. (Thank you, I am.) Also, the admin lady was very flexible about giving us cash in lieu of a plane ticket. Also, one of the shrinks recognized we were moving too quickly. Thanks.


Nevertheless, I still found the conference to be manipulative, damaging, and rife with nonsense. It was like the transition staff filled a room with Peace Corps volunteers, stood in front of us, then told us they weren’t sure who would be selected to become Peace Corps volunteers. (I thought about putting last clause in active voice, but the transition staff really made it seem like getting a transfer would be an act of God. Sylvia talked a great deal about stars aligning as a reason for us getting a transfer, so I left it in passive.) Even when considering assignment codes, medical screening, general likeability and astrology, it’s still completely unclear to me why a lucky 30-some volunteers were offered transfers and the other 60-some were sent home. They are all great volunteers. I know some dedicated, highly qualified PCVs who were sent home.


I just hope the process of deciding was more sophisticated than pulling names out of hat, though I’m fairly certain it was less just. We’ll never know; we weren’t in that room. What is clear is the Peace Corps just jaded a large number of volunteers who at one point were willing to set their lives aside to serve.


Full disclosure: At the end of the conference, Sylvia handed out evaluations as a way for us to give feedback. I definitely forgot to fill mine out.

Monday, January 24, 2011

The Things that Didn't Happen

January 24, 2011

What the hell just happened? I have no idea. What I last remember is sleeping in at my house in Dosso. I was laying in bed on the red sheets I just found. Did I mention I got a new position? Did I mention I’d moved? After nearly a year in my second village, Golle, I decided to apply for an RVL (Regional Volunteer Leader) position, which required me to relocate to the regional capital, Dosso. I took the position in October, but have been so busy I hadn’t even had a chance to write about it. I’d agonized about leaving my family, but nothing was happening there. As Paul Simon sang, nothing but the dead were dying back in my little town.


So I’d moved. I was busy. The change of pace proved to me how much I like to be busy. I reached a new level of confidence with the language. I could navigate any Nigerien market, find my way across any stretch of the Sahel. It was cold season, so the weather was amazing. I was considering extending for a third year. I was home.


Then, I got a text message one Saturday morning from a new volunteer asking, “Is it true two French nationals were abducted from a restaurant in Niamey last night?” Immediately I got to the nearest Internet source and confirmed it. Two young Frenchmen had been kidnapped from a restaurant in Niamey…and not just any restaurant, “Toulusain”—a place Peace Corps volunteers frequented enough to nickname it, “Eb’s.” I’ve been to Eb’s often enough. It is just like any other bar in Niamey (same menu, same beer), but its popularity comes from its proximity to the Peace Corps hostel. It’s a five-minute walk. A fellow volunteer was supposed to be at the bar that night, but his plans fell though.


When I heard this and other details from the kidnapping, I though it was all over. How could Peace Corps possibly continue to operate when AQIM was bold enough to run jobs in a city volunteers spent a lot of time in? But then nothing happened. Niamey volunteers were given a curfew of 8 PM to 6 AM and asked to check in every day, but none of the steps of our “Emergency Action Plan” were activated. We weren’t “consolidated” to regional capitals as happened with the attempted kidnapping last November. We were on “standfast,” in which volunteers are not permitted to travel, but that was due to the local elections taking place. The Peace Corps office was uncommunicative as ever, but they aren’t stupid about safety. I knew if there were a threat, they would be taking action. So, as the days passed and nothing happened, I convinced myself the office had some sort of information that made it clear AQIM was not responsible for the kidnapping. Perhaps it was personal; one of the men abducted was about to get married to a local and rumor is her family didn’t approve.


Four days later (a day before my departure for a much-anticipated vacation), I slept in late. I had trouble getting out of bed in the morning since it was so cold (70 degrees?). When I did get up, I had a leisurely cream-of-wheat breakfast as I ran through my day in my head: write emails, pack, post office, market, organize shuttles. I was just getting ready to head out the door to start work when my phone rang. It was Walter, the Peace Corps medical officer. He said, “Are you with me? I am going to read you a statement from Peace Corps Washington…” I don’t remember the wording, but the message as clear: You’re being evacuated. You are leaving.


I wish I could say in that moment I grasped what I was losing, but I my first thoughts were more along the lines of: What do I pack? *$^#$&! I don’t get to go on vacation now. Who’s going to tell Seyni? Who already knows?


The worst part was the office requested we not call anyone until they did, so they could read the official statement. Not being able to talk about it, I spent the next forty minutes “packing,” a.k.a carrying items from one room to another in blank distraction until I broke down and went over to my neighbor’s house, Rebekah…also a PCV. Rebekah had just got the call. We stood there on her porch yelling profanities at no one for a while before deciding we had to call Seyni.


Seyni you may remember from earlier blog posts is the soul of team Dosso. He is the “Program Assistant” or “Driver,” but what he basically does is drive around the Dosso region and fix things for us. He rebuilds our houses. He brings us medicine. He resolves village conflicts. He puts you in contact with so-and-so, who is just the right person for your project. He has worked for Peace Corps for twenty-five years and was a dear friend to essentially every volunteer in the region. He was now out of a job.


When Seyni showed up at our houses, he was bright and ready for the day. I guess I wasn’t supposed to be the one to tell him, but I did. “They said we are going,” I said in Zarma. He knew immediately what I meant. I can’t pretend I knew what it was like for him to hear this news, but I know he didn’t eat for three days after and he could hardly look anyone in the eye.


Knowing how slowly things move in Peace Corps, I wandered off to go email my family, thinking I’d have at least a few days before I left Dosso. I got a text message at noon that Wednesday saying I would leave Dosso the next morning and leave the country early, early Friday morning. I had less than 48 hours to pack and say good-bye.


There wasn’t time to return to my village one last time. I couldn’t get a message to my scholarship winner or to the school director. I had to settle with a rushed phone call to my old landlord who cursed the bandits and assured me Golle was totally safe. “Come back here,” he said. “We’ll protect you. There’s no need to leave.” In fact, that’s what all the Nigeriens were saying, “Please, please don’t leave our country.”


I cleaned out (ransacked) my house and spent the night at the hostel with the other volunteers. I don’t know of a single volunteer that slept that night.


Thursday was a blur. As part of my new job, I was responsible for helping to organize the evacuation of my region, so I was literally on the phone the whole day. Some volunteers, who hadn’t been in their villages when we got the news, were getting dropped off to pack and come back Friday. Others were getting picked up. Those leaving their villages had to get to Niamey in time to close bank accounts. We started at 5:30 AM and somehow (only Allah knows how) four cars managed to travel to pick up 25 volunteers from all over the region, drop off seven, and still make it to Niamey by four PM. My mom and sister, who know what it means to travel in Niger, will attest to how remarkable that is. I should mention, however, in a classic Nigerien moment, two of the cars got stuck in several feet of mud only an hour after leaving Dosso. They still made it.


The next thing I knew it was Thursday night and I was weighing my bags on the basketball court at the Niamey hostel. My entire training class once sang the national anthem on that court. Around me and in the hostel were mountains and mountains of clothes, food, knickknacks, books and God knows what else. My netty pot is still in there somewhere. The place looked like a warzone. I just kept thinking, how can we have so much that we can leave so much behind?


Again, I didn’t sleep. Did I ever eat? I don’t remember.


And then it was time to go. Forty-five disoriented, heart-broken Americans with overweight bags in a third-world airport is hilarious, by the way.


I got through airport security, sat down in one of the chairs to wait to board and completely lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably into my carry-on for about forty minutes. The reality had sunk in. I was leaving. I wasn’t coming back. This day, the day I finished my service in Niger, was something I had looked forward to plenty, especially as a new volunteer. It will be so great, I had thought during my first weeks of training, to finish my service. It will feel like such an accomplishment. But this was so different.


After eighteen months in Niger, everything had happened to me. I survived training, fell in my latrine, was sprayed by cow diarrhea, survived a coup d’etat, moved four times, found a snake in my house, got my neighbor to club the snake, watch a neighbor have a seizure, watch a neighbor have a baby, got sick, got better, made friends, lost friends, carried babies, carried water, carried on. Everything else happened, why not the things that didn’t[1]? That’s exactly how I feel about my service; I feel like EVERYTHING happened to me. So, why not the things that didn’t? Why didn’t I ever go see the hippos? Why couldn’t I take that last vacation? Why didn’t I get malaria? Why couldn’t I leave on my own terms?


Why couldn’t I leave on my own terms?


We flew to Morocco and were checked into a hotel. In a hilariously unfunny moment, (after 72 hours with no sleep) Peace Corps Morocco sat us all down and started recounting the history and culture of the region.


A few days later, after the other 50-something volunteers arrived, we began the “transition conference,” or what I called the-worst-thing-ever conference. No one really understood when we were leaving Niger that our service was actually ending. We were being sent home. Transfers were offered to a select few, and volunteers were encouraged to re-enroll (start their 27 months over), but for the most part we were told, “Peace Corps doesn’t have enough money to keep you here or accommodate you. Go home.” Of the 22 volunteers in my training class, only three were offered direct transfers to other countries. One volunteer had been on vacation in America at the time and wasn’t even offered the chance to continue with her service. There was no conversation about it, just, “Sorry. You’re done.”


I don’t want to overdramatize what it means to not be able to finish your service. Obviously, worse things have happened in the world…worse things have happened in Peace Corps. But this is so hard. With no time or preparation we are told to say good-bye to the people who have become our family, leave our homes, travel back to a strange, cold land and find jobs. No, thank you. This is the second time in my life my heart has been broken. (The first was because of a boy and I only bring it up to prove I know what it feels like.) My heart is broken. I am suffering a major loss. I am grieving. I’m not going back…


Obviously, the Peace Corps made the right decision to evacuate Niger. AQIM has now taken credit for the kidnappings and the people taken could have just as easily been Peace Corps volunteers. We couldn’t stay. You know, I read in an article in the Economist AQIM has only about 125 members for the entire Sahel region. How could they cause all that disruption? Jerks.


And I was one of the lucky ones. Tomorrow, I am getting on a plane to finish my service in Peace Corps Senegal. Don’t ask me what work I will be doing, I really don’t know. Something about development.


The unlucky ones are making their way back to the states to start over. Some are traveling. Some are looking for jobs in Africa.


The really unlucky ones are still back in Niger…the Peace Corps staff, like Seyni, who are now out of work; George, the tailor who made 90% of his money working with Peace Corps volunteers; Omar who I bought all my jewelery from… At least as Americans, we have options. We always have options. Seyni will have to look for work as a driver, but with the Peace Corps pulling out so will many other NGOs. Where can he find work now that all the anasaras are leaving? What about Djibou our hostel guard? Or the ten members of the support staff at the training site who only had a regular income because of Peace Corps?


Everything that could have happened to me did. Everything happened, why not the things that didn’t?



[1] (That’s quote from my favorite short story Here We Aren’t, So Quickly by Jonathan Safran Foer.)

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Monday, December 6, 2010

Intro

When my sister and mother came to visit Niger in July I asked them to collaborate to write a post for this blog. In part, this request was born from laziness (one less post for me to write!), but more so I was curious to see my life through fresh eyes. After a year and some months here, I've adjust to life in Niger. Things that once seemed outlandish and bizarre now fail to even catch my notice. Thus, I took advantage of this unique moment...

The following is what my sister wrote (with input from my mother) about our trip. I didn't edit it or (as of yet) even read it. I hope you enjoy it as much as I am sure I will. (My sister is an amazing writer).

From My Sister

For your blog:

First to address a rather glaring issue- the timing of this blog post. Here it is mid-December and I've just finished putting my thoughts down. Being a left-brained, organized, motivated person, it may come as a confusing surprise to many of you that it took me 4 months to write an account of visiting with my sister.

Slowly but surely after my arrival back in Spokane, I began to realize I was seeing the world a little bit differently. I am much less worried about my housekeeping, returning phone calls (sorry, by the way...), working crazy hours, and generally having anxiety about anything that does not seem immediately life threatening. I have noticed that I feel much more relaxed about life, about my role in life, and my role in other people's lives. This is not to say that I've developed apathy towards life or my relationships, but rather a more persistent "What's the big deal?" mentality.

I have no idea if this will stick, but what I am coming to realize now, months after returning home, that I did not realize while on my trip is the magnitude of what I experienced. During quiet and still moments of my day, with almost no exception my mind turns to my brief Africa-adventure. I think back to the smiles, the food, the dozens of marriage proposals, the look of astonishment on many faces at my behavior, my look of astonishment at the behavior of others. I believe it has taken me this long to write this account because, truthfully, I am not done gathering my own thoughts about it. When I describe my trip to my friends, I often feel at a loss for words. My fancy-pants left brain that so dutifully served me in the past isn't sure what to do with a culture so focused on right brain territory- the here and now. To describe my trip is, in many ways, to fracture it. How does one apply language to an experience so... well, experiential?
At any rate, please understand the lengthy musing below in no way encompasses what it was like to briefly exist in Africa. I did my best to make it coherent but fully encourage all of you to go over there and try it out. I bet you'll like it.

But before we dive into the recounting of the adventure that was Mom and Karin Visit Katie in Niger 2010, I'd like to ask you something. Do you know how to carry a bucket of water on your head? Have you ever filled a bucket to its very brim so that the only thing keeping it from overflowing is water tension, then bent down and heaved this bucket onto your crown for ease of carrying?

Or are you more likely to grasp the handle of said bucket with one or both hands, leaning way over to the side and using your hip joint to provide the momentum to shove the bucket forward? Does the very prospect of carrying a large bucket full of water leave you with an immediate assumption that you will be wearing most of the water before you get to your destination?

Maybe you're wondering why this is even an issue since, oh by the way, we have garden hoses now?

Then here's another question: Do you know how to wash your feet? If you use soap and water, you're on the right path, but how do you scrub? Do you sit or stand? Do you pour the water first and then lather on up or or you soap and pour at the same time?

These questions, and several hundred others, are things that I grappled with from the moment Mom and I landed at Niamey Airport in early July. Preparing for the trip, I was careful not to form any expectations. None. Zip. How does one even come to imagine how life will be for three weeks in Niger? This would be like imagining how life will be when we colonize Mars. It's a different world entirely. I nurtured this mindset, or lack of mindset, in the weeks before our trip- I focused on the 2 1/2 day trip to get from Spokane to Niamey. I thought about what I would pack. I thought about which medications to take. I thought about which legs of our journey we'd be asleep for. I thought about health insurance 'just in case'. Truly, my main concern was arriving at Katie's doorstep in one piece, then going from there.

Needless to say, diving into Africa headfirst without expectations on where, who, what, why, when, and how, is still setting yourself up for surprise. Everything I know about the way the world works, from gender roles, to thunderstorms, to the way you wash your feet, does not apply in Africa. My name didn't even apply in Africa- for three weeks, I trained my head to look up at the name "Wassila".

Which begs another question- on a trip where the rules of the world do not apply, how does one blog about it?

In the lines that follow, please forgive any confusing or erroneous messages. Please forgive the sheer magnitude of this report. And certainly please forgive any lack of thorough explanation- that's kind of how it goes.

Our Arrival:

Mom and I landed without much ado, or rather no more ado than one can expect from traveling for 60+ hours straight. We were hungry, sleepy, cramping, and more than a little dazed. The Niamey airport is a small one, comprised of little more than a gate, baggage claim, and main lobby with customs. Oh, and it was really hot. Suddenly, we were in Niger.

The ride into Niamey was informative. Trash lined the streets and most travelers were pedestrians walking the dirt paths into the city in the early morning hours. We passed dozens of shacks made from tin, palm leaves, or mud. After a few days in Niger, this scenery became typical, but Katie and I had a conversation about the shock most Westerners feel during that first drive from the airport to the Peace Corps Hostel. The sheer level of poverty is almost inconceivable. Then you look down at your Western clothes, the camera in your hand, the shoes that cost you $30.00 and think to yourself, "What exactly do I have to complain about?"

Our time in Niamey was both jam-packed and totally relaxed. There is a saying I learned on my visit; "Americans have watches. Nigerians have time." We did a lot of different things- eating out, going to the market, visiting the Musee- but the way these things came about usually went like this:

"Let's go visit This Thing today!"

"That sounds great!"

"Oh wait, we can't. It's closed/we don't have transportation/it's too hot."

"Okay let's do something else!"

Waiting is a sport in Niger. We would arrive at places with ten or fifteen minutes to spare, then wait for hours for the actual event. Things don't happen at a specific time. They happen when they happen. What time will the bus leave? Soon. When will our passports be ready? Soon. Everything is soon. As in, sooner or later. What's your hurry, Anasara? Do you have other places to be?

As I look back on the number of 'touristy' things we did, we really fit a lot in. But the real adventure was just being there. Walking around on African soil, talking to Africans, smelling African food, watching African lifestyle were all a sight to be had in themselves. As much of our time was, as Katie said, "Hurrying up so we can wait," we had a lot of time to observe how Nigerians live.

Some highlights from our first week:

Giraffes! Real, tall, funny-looking, vegetarian, giraffes. I can honestly say that never in my life, before deciding to go to Africa, did I think I'd go run around with a bunch of giraffes. Katie hired a driver to take her, Mom, and me out to a Giraffe preserve, where the last of the wild Nigerien giraffes live. We drove about an hour out of Niamey to a small, open structure with a little sign that said something like: "Giraffe preserve." We hired an official guide who directed our driver off the highway (and I don't mean onto another road) in search of a giraffe herd. Every now and then, he would order our driver to stop, then would get out of the car, climb a tree, and look around for tall giraffe necks peeking out of the landscape. He'd then get back in the car, point to this direction or that, and off we'd go, bumping over dirt mounds and swerving around bushes and trees. Sure enough, we found them. Upon our arrival, they were being herded away from the highway. There are no fences surrounding the preserve (not that a fence would exactly be effective... I mean, they are giraffes after all...) so in order to prevent these animals from being struck on the busy highway, a man on a small motorcycle spends his day chasing the herd away from the road. I would love this job.

We got out of the car and walked up to the giraffes. They kept a watchful eye on the amount of distance between us and them, but mostly walked around eating tree leaves. Like many things you will read about in this blog, the experience was ineffable. We took pictures and gazed at the lanky, spotted creatures as they walked around the open savanna. They did not run from us, but simply kept their space, studying us with the same intent we studied them. It was magical. These creatures that are unlike any anywhere else in the world were tolerating our presence, giving us the sense for a brief moment that we were more than just white Americans- we belonged to something much greater than nationality. The air about them was prehistoric- they knew things we could never experience. They have wisdom untouchable by human minds.

The Musee-

The Musee is an entirely outdoor combination of natural history, cultural history, zoo, playground, and jungle gym (the only one I saw during our stay). We saw garments from the tribes of Niger, the Zarma, the Touaregs, the Hausa, and the Beeri Beeri. All the garments had a specific style from the other tribes. The Touaregs, the last of the Sahara Nomads, wear indigo garments, turbans that cover their face, and large swords. Every inch of skin is covered for both men and women- a Westerner like me wonders how they don't die of heat stroke. Katie reminds me, though, that in Niger you can get rid of bed bugs by putting your mattress in the afternoon sun. Here, sun is not for basking in. The sun is both a source of life and a threat to it- prolonged exposure is downright dangerous. Your skin heats so fast that you can feel it burn if it's not covered or lathered in sunscreen (something I had the pleasure of experiencing first hand).

After the garments, a Peace Corps Volunteer who works at the zoo showed us the animals. This was pretty heart-wrenching. The cages were only big enough for the animal to move in, they get very little attention by their caregivers and are often teased by the visiting children. As hard as this was for me, it is in keeping with the Nigerien approach to animals. They don't take pets, name their animals, and consider them possessions only. Still, we were graced with the presence of hippos, spotted and stripped hyenas (who, as it turns out, love a good shoulder scratching), chimps, baboons, red monkeys, and lions. The PCV petted many of them trying to give them some affection.

Once our tour was over, we went to the artisan center. At least 50 men were sitting in their small workspace, usually a small rug or two to sit on, with their wares laid out in front of them. These men live just outside this center, which is nothing more than a large shed with a tin roof. We ran to get inside as we were caught in a sudden downpour of rain. I put my right foot forward and it wasn't raining. By the time my left foot had its turn to hit the ground, it was. It rained so hard the drops pinched my skin and I was nearly soaked within seconds. The rain stayed at this intense pace for at least 30 minutes- Katie says this is a typical African rainstorm.

The artisans mean business. This was our first experience of being in a marketplace here in Niger and it was intense to say the least. Western manners have no place here. As you walk by, they are pressing their beautiful, intricate creations (handmade in that center) into your hand trying to get your attention and money. It becomes overwhelming when six of them are vying for your attention. They offered many works of art- earrings, bracelets, rings, animal statues, necklaces, purses, belts, shoes, and so on. The moment you admire something, it is being pushed at you to try on. Nothing in Niger really has a set price- you must bargain for everything. Katie has become quiet adept at this skill and indulged Mom and I as we tried to find a few things to buy. First, she asks how much and tries to look uninterested. Once they name a price, her eyebrows shoot up with a cry of "Habba?!" ("Really?!? Are you serious?") Then the debate is off in earnest, sometimes ending with her ushering us away to see if the merchant calls us back. Often, she'd accuse them of giving us "Anasara prices" ("Anasara" meaning "Outsiders", something we got very used to responding to.)

Katie's One Year Mark-

Mom and I were blessed and honored to be present with Katie and the rest of the PCV's in her group as they celebrated their one-year anniversary in Niger. Everyone went out to dinner and Mom and I got to see first hand the strength of character and resiliency it takes to live here. Everyone was very friendly and inviting- there was a communal sense of adventure and tolerance, as if to remind each other the world will turn out alright. The jokes were flying but underneath them laid a darker sense of reality- that the world doesn't always work the way we are used to, that buses do not always run on schedule (or run at all) and whether or not you feel you can depend on the external world pulling through, you can look inward and know that you can depend on yourself. This knowledge, this sense of, "Sure, it'll be okay," is few and far between in America where we rely on fear to guide us through our every day actions. Even a sense of running late, so worrisome to us, doesn't really exist here. There is no late. There is only now.

In the time we spent with Katie and her fellow PCV's, we saw their charm and charisma, their stoic courage, and their sense of wonder at the world. We laughed with them, listened to the songs they sing about being in the Peace Corps, chatted with them about their life here in Niger and, naturally, about their home in America.

Oh, and also, I still have a couple of their personally written raps stuck in my head. "I'm in Niger, and... There's lots of sand, and..."



Some highlights from our second week:

Getting to Katie's Village:

Our primary modes of transportation on this trip were buses and our own two feet. Bus tickets have your name written on them and the attendant calls names out for who can get on the bus when. On our first bus ride, we were lucky enough to be at the top of the list, so we were able to pick seats by the window. This was also a chance to practice pushing through crowds as Nigeriens don't really do that whole Orderly Line thing. Instead, they all rush to the front and push each other out of the way. This happens most of the time for most things- Katie says that there is just so much need here that people have to shove to make sure they get the thing they're waiting for.

The bus was very old, as most cars here are. All the seats were packed, including the ones that fold down in the aisle. If a customer pays, they get on the bus (thus the saying, "An African bus is never full," and the joke, "How many Africans can you fit into a car? One more." I've seen cars here so full of people that you can't look in one window and see out the other. This also translates into piles of stuff tied to the roof of cars and buses, sometimes so tall that the vehicle falls over). It took the bus a while to get loaded as there was a lot of re-arranging of people and bags, yelling, and general havoc. I watched an older woman downright kick a girl out of her seat. The girl handed her infant to a stranger, the man sitting next to her, who held the child without a word as if it were perfectly natural that he should be trusted with someone else's baby. The bus began to drive out of the station well before everyone was situated. The drive was fine as it was good highway with not too many potholes. This was our first chance to see the Nigerien countryside. It was flat, in that way that makes you feel you can see forever, lots of green brush and millet growing, and every minute or so, a small group of houses. And everywhere, people- walking, standing, sitting, or biking, but people.

At one connection between buses, we sat for several hours waiting for another car to take us the next leg of our journey. We sat at the Tessum (the place where you wait to get a ride in a car) under a shade hanger on a log. We chatted a bit with some of the other people waiting for a ride. I watched two little boys doing laundry in a cut up canteen, both half-naked. They took turns scrubbing and rinsing before delicately laying out the clothes to dry on a log. I asked them (or rather, Katie did) if I could take their picture and they posed with a blank, awed stare that we Anasaras usually got from small children. Once I shot the photo, though, they grabbed my camera to see the image and erupted in squeals and giggles at seeing an image of themselves. I guess camera shyness exists everywhere.

Katie's Village-

There is no way I will be able to adequately describe this experience. It was like walking into a novel, a world described by the author where details exist that even the writer doesn't see. When we arrived, Katie showed us the return-home chores she has to do. We watched in confused amusement as she took a stick and banged it repeatedly against her ceiling to loosen all the termite damage to her roof. Pieces of her ceiling fell down around her and she promptly swept this up with a hand broom that is really no more than a handful of straw. She continued sweeping under her tanda (shade hanger) and tossed the collection over her wall, an interesting afterthought after so much effort.

Next, we had the task of collecting water. Remember, garden hoses don't exist here. There are two ways to get water in Katie's village- go to the well or pay for it at the pump. Katie only drinks and cooks with pump water as it is much cleaner, but bathing water, dish water, and buta water must all be collected from the well. We crossed the short walk from Katie's house to the large water well after Katie gave Mom strict instructions not to help because she is the Mom and should not be working lest Katie be shamed by the villagers. You can imagine how well this sat with my independent mother. Katie and I used a rubber bucket made out of old car tire called a logo that is attached to a rope to toss into the well. Then we both pulled the rope up in a rhythm, taking turns grabbing it with both hands and pulling it up over our heads (and you thought upright shoulder rows were a tough workout!). When we had the logo at the top of the well, we poured the water into large buckets and repeated the process until the buckets were full. Katie did give Mom a turn to see what it was like (and give my poor shoulders a rest!)

We got a lot of attention at the well and everyone wanted to meet us and shake our hands. Zarma meetings are extensive and each person greets the other with a long list of scripted questions. Imagine what your life would be like if every person you see in your day stopped to ask how you, your family, your health, etc. has been.

Once we had our buckets full, Katie and I each put a bucket on our heads to walk back to her house. In the same fashion that I'd giggle at someone who didn't know how to shovel snow, I got a lot of laughs for not having any idea how to carry a bucket on my head, although I have to brag that I had only minimal spillage walking back to Katie's house.

A quick rest later, we gathered our bearings and headed out our the proper skirts and head wraps to meet the villagers. Had we not made these rounds during the first day of our arrival, Katie would have had many people knocking on her door to shame her for not bringing us by. We didn't make it to everyone as Katie's village hosts about a thousand or so people, but met several important households including the village chief. He was an old man with grey hair who walked with a cane but seemed downright jovial. He asked us how everyone in America is doing (they generally perceive America as one giant village and don't really have a concept of the sheer magnitude of the country.) We said everyone is fine. I hope that was a truthful answer.
Heading back to Katie's concession became a race against the sun as it began to grow dark. Growing dark is probably a northern and southern term, now that I think about it. When you're near the equator, the sun rises and falls very quickly, so it doesn't grow dark, it just is dark.

The wives of Katie's concession were pounding millet, which is their main food staple and quite a process. The women use a long, think, smooth pole that is five or so feet tall and, lifting it in one hand, thrust it full force into a wooden bucket with a deep cavern and stable bottom. Then they lift it up and repeat. This creates a rhythmic drumming sound that adds to the magic of the evening (there is no magic about it at sunrise, however. You think you're alarm clock is a pain in the butt, wait until you are sound asleep and someone decides to pound millet 10 feet from your head.) Pounding millet can take up 90% of a woman's day.

Our evening meal, prepared by the wives, was a delicious squash sauce over rice, fish, and millet. We sat on the ground with the women (the men having already been served) and ate with our right hand. The food was different- different in taste, smell, and texture (texture is largely affected by the amount of sand in everything). I enjoyed the fish and squash very much. Katie has learned to like much of the food there, but Mom and I struggled with the strange taste of the millet- yuck. It has the consistency of a flour gelatin and feels like wet cement in your mouth. I mostly tried to put a little bit in my mouth and swallow it without tasting it. No one ever gets to call my sister a picky eater. Ever.

Mealtime conversation was minimal, a struggle for my polite mealtime mind that is used to talking straight through my food. I tried to make pleasing sounds as I ate to convey at least some appreciation for their efforts. I also tried not to feel terribly guilty for eating while all the children of the concession who struggle with being malnourished stood behind us and stared with a plain, unmasked hunger in their eyes. During the day, they stared at us. During dinner, they stared at the food.

The next morning, we woke to the melodic sounds of chanting prayer and shortly thereafter the effective pounding of millet. We spent much of the morning playing with the 6 month old baby in Katie's concession, a joyful, alert, and downright squeezable boy. He entertained himself for a good 20 minutes playing with Mom's skirt. Katie is clearly fond of this ball of fun and often plays with him. His mom, however, has gotten in the habit of leaving Baby in Katie's tanda unattended. Katie believes the mom expects Katie to be doing the childcare- in Niger, a child begins caring for their younger siblings once they turn 7. It is not unusual to see a small child tied to the back of a slightly bigger child.

An interesting piece of our second day in Katie's village was meeting a mentally handicap young girl who was maybe 10 years old. When someone develops these handicaps or developmental delays in Niger, they stay with their family for life. They are allowed to wander around and everyone kind of pitches in to take care of them. They wander around the village with few expectations of participating in the work of village life unless they become a danger to themselves or others at which point they are sent to jail. Really, though, a life spent playing and being fed is pretty good for someone with mental handicaps.

We did more meet and greets around Katie's village. I was often asked if I am married, if I'd like to get married, and why I am not married already. Katie told them about my partner Dan and everyone decided to come to our wedding when (not if) we have one. They were also amused to find out that I am older but shorter than Katie. This amuses many Westerners too, so there's a piece of culture we share. Katie gave a lot of advice on hygiene and caring for infants, which was cool to hear. I learned a lot about the struggles kiddos face when growing up in village.

Later, we went for a walk into the bush. We followed a dirt road made by donkey carts and foot traffic and were led quickly into a rolling field of green millet. Millet is planted in every free square foot of dirt outside the walls of the village concessions and the feeling of being very much so in the country comes upon you quickly as you enter the rows of green. There were no human structures other than the occasional grain hut made out of grass. The land felt at once untrodden and ancient. The farmers have lived there for hundreds of years, farming the same land, living in the same place. Yet even for all this history, the land has not changed. It has not seen social evolution, development, chemicals, smog, irrigation, tractors, mining, or even a solid building since most houses have to be remade every year or so as the mud melts in the rain. The land isn't the enemy of these people, it is not something to be conquered or taken advantage of. It is something to exist with as a team, something that provides when left just by itself. It needs no coaxing, no instruction, to grow the food that sustains the village. Odd to think that the land is doing what it is meant to do without the farmers telling it how.

It was fun walking in the bush, waving at men hoeing the ground and women breaking up the soil for planting while their hampa'd babies snoozed on their backs. Getting each family enough food for the year seems to be the main task of most citizens of Niger. Not only is there a hot/dry and wet/cold season, there is a hungry season. This is where food stores are running out, food gets more expensive, and it is not yet time to harvest more food. Mom and I visited during hungry season, which Katie says is one of the reasons merchants are so pushy with getting tourists to buy things. In Katie's village, they stretch food out as far as possible, even to the point of 'recycling' dishes- if a dish is not fully eaten one night, the sauce is rinsed off and the grain is eaten at the next meal. This is trickier than the western "leftovers" idea since there is no refrigeration to keep food from spoiling.

One of Katie's villagers told her that he needs to make sure his family of 7 has at least two 50 pounds bags of millet per month. The culture revolves around food in a big way- it demonstrates status, beauty is seen in large people who have a lot to eat, celebrations involve feasting, and a family's "savings account" is in food stores. This makes me wonder how having such an abundance of food has affected the West. We don't have to focus most of our time and energy on food so we can develop our culture and lives in other ways. On the other hand, our scope is so large that we don't have nearly the same kind of friendly, leisurely companionship or camaraderie that I felt in Niger. We feel entitled to what we want when we want it and curse what stands in our way to get it. We are angry at each other, in a big hurry, full of fear, and generally dissatisfied. We have all the material we could ever need plus a plethora of luxury, yet we strive for the simplicity found in belonging to a community. We want it all and we want everyone else to want it our way. How does this attitude really stand up next to a place like Niger?



Some highlights from our third week:

Our drive from Katie's village-

Now, I've had my share of car trouble in the past. I've called AAA at least a dozen times, been towed half as many, and generally feel comfortable negotiating how my vehicles are repaired. When the car arrived in Katie's village to take us back, our first sight of the driver was of him pouring water into the radiator. We all exchanged foreboding glances and Katie asked the driver if the car (a picture-perfect POS) would run. He assured Katie that it was fine and we piled in.
Needless to say, another Western expectation of mine was challenged. We have this idea that if something exists, it should run right. If there are buses, they should come on time. If there are telephones, they should connect to other telephones. If there is a car waiting to drive you somewhere, it should... well, drive!

Our ride was exciting, to say the least, as we flew down the dirt roads of rural Niger. Our driver stopped no less than 5 times in the 30 km distance to fill the over-heated radiator with water. It spurted up like a geyser as he filled it and I cannot imagine how he didn't burn himself on that water. He ran out of water, though, after the first stop and subsequent stops involved hoping the car made it to the next village. In order to do this, there was definitely a speed-to-engine ratio where we had to go fast enough to make it to the next village before the engine overheated but also not so fast that the engine overheated too quickly. It was about this time I began having the thought, "What do I know about what makes car engines explode?" Once we made it to a village, our driver asked whoever was around for water from the well. Again, we drew quite a crowd of people at each village who wanted to stare at the Anasaras, but now they also wanted to put in their two cents on how to keep the car running. Nigeriens get around mainly by small motorcycles, buses, and old cars from the 1980's. While in America, we would send these vehicles off to that big junk yard in the sky, Nigeriens have developed amazing mechanical skills and keep things running. While it took some doing, we made it back to Dosso in one piece.

Making it to Benin-

Making it from Dosso to Benin took the better part of 2 days on and off of buses, a nice stay in a small motel in Malanville (just across the Niger/Benin border) and several doses of Dramamine. The roads are literal minefields of potholes, leaving the passengers hot, sweaty, and subject to the constant careening as the bus tires navigate the difference between road and absence of road. Between the sounds of the driver grinding gears and swerving even as the tires didn't seem to be touching the ground, conversation was nearly impossible. I spent most of the ride staring out the window and willing my body to keep enduring the heat, sweat, noise, and bumps of the bus ride. Katie, bless her heart, had the added task of maintaining composure next to a woman who was transporting on her lap a whole cow head and four cows feet.

Looking out the window, it was hard not to notice how much more developed the world seemed just miles away from Niger. Buildings were made of cement, stores had storefronts, the cars are newer, they have trash cans on the street, and there were even outdoor stadiums for playing sports. Katie made the remark that even remote Benin is more developed than Niger's capital city, Niamey.

Once in Natitingou, we found a place to stay. Our hotel, Hotel De Bourgonge, was another lovely, exotic African hotel with beautiful flowers blooming everywhere, tile floors, spacious patios, and beds with mosquito nets strung over them. The rooms had two beds, which we shared, and a bathroom with a sink and shower. We had our first shower in four days and settled in with a delicious dinner, air heavy with tropical perfume, and a feeling of quite and leisure.

Kota Falls-

Our first day in Natitingou took us out to a water fall just outside of town. We walked a quarter of a mile down a rocky path into a picture my imagination couldn't create. There were two cascading waterfalls that fell into a pool surrounded by tall, smooth rock walls. There was a tiny rock bench, smoothed from so many bare feet trespassing it and everywhere you looked something green and lush was growing. The air seemed like pure oxygen that gave a euphoric high upon inhalation. We swam for nearly an hour in the warm water under the falls. We played, stood within the waterfall, and laughed and laughed. We ate a picnic lunch and resumed our swim until Katie off-handedly remarked, "Hey, guys, I think I see a snake in the water..." at which point we immediately evacuated and didn't look back.

Park Pendjari-

The next morning, we woke up early to make our way to the nearby wild animal refuge park. Park Pendjari (pronounced pen jar ee) is a part of a trio of wildlife refuge parks that all connect with each other but in different countries. Together they make one big park, with part in Benin, part in Niger, and part in Burkina Faso. These parks are home to many animals that once dominated Africa, but after Europe showed up and people began to flood onto the continent, there was much less space for the animals to exists in and thus fewer animals are left. Our ride took us into the park at least 50 miles to the Hotel Pendjari where tourists can stay and have a better chance of seeing the wildlife. On the drive in, Mom spotted a large baboon sitting in a tree and getting some sun. It was incredible. I have seen baboons before, even up close, but never in the wild. It was as though this baboon was more real, more so a baboon than any other I've encountered.

We made it to a waterhole that had a man-made lookout where you could observe the animals from a distance. There, we saw hippopotamus swimming, waterbuck, antelope, and large, black, stork-like birds with brightly colorful heads. The quiet of the place had a majesty about it as though this space was permitting you to witness it.

Our guide, a gruff, uncouth man who spoke in hasty French, chain smoked, was missing several prominent teeth, but who proved to be a gold-mine of information on the park, the animals, and Benin, set up a bench on top of the Toyota Four-runner we were driving. The rest of the way, Katie, Mom and I took turns sitting on top of the car keeping a lookout for animals (as well as hanging on for dear life and ducking from tree branches as we whipped down the dirt road). It was using this system of lookouts who kicked the roof of the car when seeing an animal that we spotted more antelope, waterbuck, a mom hippo with her baby running for cover, and a family of warthogs. The park holds many other animals like lions and elephants, but given the wet, cool season, they were all well-hidden in the grass and trees. We did see work of the elephants who can push over a large tree and passed several palm trees that were fallen by elephants, split in the middle with brute force.

The park itself is not fenced and several villages, centuries old, still live in it with the animals. We wondered aloud about the relations between the natives, the animals, and the park caretakers. Our guide informed us that the park was seriously underfunded, making it all the more incredible that it exists.

On our way home, our guide took us briefly to a waterfall hidden behind a village. A small group of local boys guided us up the stream (literally, in the water and uphill) and while we swayed and slipped up the rocky stream bed, they were barefoot and solid in their stance. The waterfall we came upon was at least 60 feet high and fell out of a rock face concave around a pool of water. Once again, we felt the ancient energy of a place with more wisdom than any human could know. One of our guides informed us the water was over 100 feet deep. To demonstrate this, he climbed the rock face to the top of the waterfall, gave a brief wave, and leaped off the cliff to plunge into the water below. He arrived back at our shore unharmed, but Mom's eyebrows were raised in motherly skepticism.

Parakou-

The next morning, we hurried to check out and make the 7:30 a.m. bus from Natitingou to Parakou. We made it to the station just in time, but ended up beating the bus there and waiting for a bit. While we enjoyed the morning, I watched two very young children, no older than two or three, a boy and a slightly older girl, walking around hand in hand, dressed in formal African cloth. The boy clearly felt it was his duty to attend to the girl and assisted her as she stepped over rocks and tree branches littering the ground. Once they walked very near me and the boy, looking with confidence into my eyes, flashed me a knowing, lopsided grin.

The ride was what we had come to expect from buses in West Africa and everyone pushed and shoved to get on the bus first. Some sat in the aisle as the seats ran out and near me, a dad knelt on the ground with two small children. The children, while surely crammed and uncomfortable, did not complain once in the three hour trip. A little into the ride, a few Hadjas got into an argument over whether to have a certain window open. ("Hadja, literally means a woman who has made the pilgrimage to Mecca, but in Nigerien slang is used to refer to any large, rich woman.) One Hadja wanted the air blowing near her but not too much, thus kept opening this window. Several others wanted the window closed, saying the breeze was too strong for the children. They yelled at each other in French and told each other to shut up. The whole ordeal was like a tornado- fascinating to watch but not something you want to be in the middle of.

We made it to Parakou around one. Our hotel, the Auberge, was in keeping with the exotic tropical theme. There were large shaded porches, flowers everywhere, and a small lawn, which struck me as impressive when I wondered about the last time I'd seen a lawn. We were able to meet up with a friend of Katie's who was in the Peace Corps in Parakou and he showed us an authentic Voodoo fetish market. This was like nothing I've ever seen. Each booth had piles of dried animals, whole and in parts. There were lizards, frogs, birds, snakes, squirrels, dog heads, hooves, skins, indistinguishable horns, all smelling distinctly dead. There were piles of bark, shells, seed pods, clay pots, and dried gourds. Katie's friend told us how prevalent voodoo culture is here. Parakou, one of the most diverse cities in West Africa, is the northern hub of Benin's voodoo culture. There is even a 2 week long celebration in the fall where Christians, Muslims, and outsiders are advised not to leave their house because anyone seen on the street who is not totally associated with voodoo is outright killed.

As I fell asleep that night, my body reminding me of the jarring bus and car rides, my 20 + mosquito bites itching like mad, and the ceiling fan making a constant whirrrr, it occurred to me how we only had a few days left in Africa. The magic of the trip kept me in a trance and it seemed like the states had melted away. I felt uncomfortable physically, but my spirit was relaxing in a place where all one needs to worry about is where to sleep and what to eat.

We made it to the bus station the next day around noon for our 2 p.m. bus back to Malanville. Katie and I bought some meat rolls from a nearby bakery and oranges (which, in their authentic form, have a bright green peel) and waited for our bus. Most bus stations, comprising of a large dirt lot, some benches, and a tanda, are pretty laissez-faire. The schedules are more estimations and buses tend to come when they come. Still, when 5 rolled around and there was still no bus, we were pretty antsy about our traveling situation. Each time we asked the staff about when the bus would arrive, they would simply say, "It's coming." Finally, around 6:30 we were on our way for the 6 hour ride to Malanville.

Niamey Part Two-

Two days later, we pulled into the Peace Corps hostel in Niamey. After a refreshing and necessary shower and change of clothes, we decided to go out and see some of the markets. First, we went out for cloth. Most Africans, both men and women, wear tailored clothes made out of bright cloth with large block prints of everything from flowers to livestock to computers. The cloth mostly comes from Nigera, the Ivory Coast, and India. We started by going stand to stand to look at all the different prints, colors, and fabrics. It felt impossible to narrow down to a few picks when there were so many cloths to choose from. One shop we went in had easily 200 prints to display. Even looking at a cloth would grab the attention of the shop-keeper who would whisk it off the hanger and thrust it into your hands before you realized you'd admired it. Cries of "Anasara" rang in our ears as we tried to take in the market. One shopkeeper even started cutting a panya (about 3 yards) for me before I had decided to buy his fabric. Katie pointed this out to him in Zarma and he just replied, "I know she will buy, I know." He even tried to stuff it in Mom's purse before we finished bargaining.

We also spent some time in a Touareg market called Chateau Un. Here, artisans sell jewelry, baskets, leather goods, and so on. Everything was beautiful, handmade from old customs and styles. The only difficulty was the hoard of sellers that surrounded us, shoving their goods in our faces and demanding we follow them to their shop to buy their things. At first we could ignore them but every time we turned around, there were two more. They were very pushy, putting things in our hands and talking over one another in broken English. Then they followed us as we went from one stand to another so it became impossible to escape from them. I kept saying "No" but finally started ignoring them completely. Katie speculated that they were being such vultures because it was hungry season. This was hard to process. Here I am, an Anasara, with enough money to buy presents and these men are just trying to feed their families. It was a similar feeling at seeing the kids begging on the street. The level of human suffering here is such that my brain almost can't understand it. It leaves me with an intense feeling of guilt at being born where I was and having what I have. Katie gave us strict instructions not to hand out money to the beggars because it perpetuates an expectation that Anasaras give free money and thus a culture of dependency. While I understand the logic , there is something core within me that believes somehow I could be changing their lives. While I feel the apathy many Nigeriens show, I cannot comprehend how we can have developed, first world countries and not have addressed this suffering.

As part of exploring feminine beauty in Niger, I was fortunate that Katie found a way for me to visit a woman in Niamey who could put henna on my feet. I was excited to bring this piece of culture back with me to the States. Here, henna on your feet and hands is like getting a mani/pedi; it is such a part of presenting oneself well that the women who hosted us were confused that I didn't think henna on my hands would be presentable at work. The henna was in Chadyen style with swirls and flowers. Our hostess, Ramatou, was a large woman who was very welcoming and talkative. She kept feeding Katie and telling us about her children (4 of 7 survived their childhood) and her life in Niger. She was amazing. She raised her children, farmed, and tried to help other woman. She talked about how isolated and alone women here can feel. Their husbands have freedom to leave, lead their lives, and pursue happiness, but women have to be homemakers. They have almost no power, which means the only way to solve their problems is to wait and hope things get better. Women become depressed easily since most problems don't go away. Ramatou also asked if she could come to my (not yet happening) wedding and had us sing Happy Birthday to her.

The henna was intricate and beautiful. The girl who did it was very patient as she drew on my feet and ankles. Behind her, her toddler sat and played with a pair of broken sunglasses tied to a string. We had discussed getting my niece Ava a present from Africa, but Katie points out that African kids play with trash. Kids find treasures in the litter that is everywhere and use their imaginations to make toys out of trash. Thus, Katie offered to find Ava a bag of trash to play with if we wanted authentic Nigerien toys... needless to say, we passed.

And thus our trip came to a close. We spent our last evening waiting in the thick evening breeze, passing the time in the same fashion we had during most of the trip. When it came time for our midnight ride to the airport, I was surprised that I felt a deep sadness. I had been here only three weeks, and did not want to say goodbye to my little sister who, really, is not little in any way. I know her path is much longer than mine and travels to many more corners of the Earth as she explores who she is and what makes the world turn. There is also no evidence whatsoever that this will change. I don't want it do. She seems happiest when following her heart to places most people don't know they can dream about. But she is my sister and a part of my soul, leaving me both celebrating her choices and missing her presence. I love her like I love to live and I am proud to call her sister.

Saturday, November 6, 2010

A Good-Bye of Sorts (Sorry if it's Cheesy)

October 15, 2010



I only got to have one conversation with Stephanie Chance. It happened at the demyst party in Dosso, her second week of training. It wasn’t a particularly significant conversation; and, now I think of it, I’m not sure she would even remember my being at the party. Shy as I am sometimes, I hung back, participating only passively in the banter.


Nevertheless, I liked Stephanie immediately. First of all, she was tall, and I always feel a kinship with other tall ladies. As a female, every ½ inch over 5’9” either emboldens your personality or becomes a burden on your self-image. (Women are supposed to be petite, right?) Stephanie had clearly found the self-confidence needed to carry herself well. She was poised and happy. She seemed like fun too. She had been dancing, and so her hair—undone by her exuberance—floated around her head. Best of all, she had been wearing a cone-shaped party hat; only sassy, fun-loving ladies dare don cone-shaped party hats.


I had no idea this one mundane moment would later gather so much significance, and so did not take the time to remember it properly. What we talked about is foggy, but I know (among other things) we talked about dating. Peace Corps Niger is 80% female. Needless to say, such a small dating pool can breed intense competition among friends, and thus a tricky love life. I told her to focus on herself and her service, not boys, wishing I could take my own advice. She smiled. Dating trouble: the great unite-er of women.


I’m sure I talked to her several other times before she returned to Hamdallaye, perhaps while choosing the music or serving her pancakes. I may have even hugged her before she got on the bus back to Niamey. I know I saw her several other times, during site announcements and swear-in. But…I’m really not sure…the mind is so self-obsessed; details always fall through the cracks.


The point is, as this was my one clear memory of Stephanie, I would be a liar if I claimed she was my dear friend, or even more than an acquaintance. She may not have even been able to tell you my name. Our story is this: I met her several times and liked her. As such, I felt like a bit of a fraud when I found myself grieving so deeply at her passing. I tried to reel in my pain, since it seemed my grief (which poured fourth so liberally) could somehow cheapen that of her dearest friends who laughed and cried with her for decades.


I think this feeling is shared among many of my fellow volunteers.


No matter if we deny it, our pain is real…and I find myself asking why I should grieve so much for someone I knew so little. After casual deliberation, this is the conclusion I have come to: Stephanie and I were not friends (we never got the chance to develop a friendship), but we were members of the same family—a family of volunteers, united by common ambitions, then shipwrecked on the other side of the world.


In Niger, we are perpetual outsiders. As residents of our communities, we may make good friends with host country nationals, but as Americans, we will never be able to fully blend with the indigenous landscape. After a year here, I have come to see that Peace Corps volunteers working in the same country are citizens of a rare community, members of the same family, children of the same dreams. We are alone on this island called Niger, but we are alone together.


Stephanie was a part of my family, and no matter how estranged or unknown, we always mourn the death of family.


On a deeper level, (not to go all psychobabble on you all) it’s clear (in this mess) I am also grieving my own mortality. How could I not? I find so much of myself in her. She was: young, tall, sassy, educated, fun loving, a rare breed of person who is willing to live in a mud hut for two years, and…a lover of cone-shaped hats. This scares me. Death is scary. After all, what solace can we find in our own vitality when a healthy, vivacious 26-year-old can meet her end so unexpectedly?


I have often remarked to myself how much closer Death feels since coming to Niger. After having attended the funerals of so many villagers, often people who I know well, Death morphed from a nebulas possibility to a peril that lurks in the business of everyday. I can gauge the gravity of an illness simply by looking at a person. I can most often say if a newborn will survive its first weeks. I know the strange qualities a dead body possesses, how they are frighteningly familiar, yet somehow dulled and blurry around the edges.


Yet, even after having met death so many times in the past year, I see now that I still felt exempt from the many fates that befell my Nigerien friends. It seemed my American-ness could put of death. I am affluent. I am special. I have a team of doctors waiting for me in Niamey.


Obviously to some degree being rich does insolate a person from hazard. For example, the Peace Corps furnishes me with a treated mosquito net, an unending malaria prophylaxis, and enough bug spray for an elephant. Even then, if I did develop the symptoms of malaria, the Peace Corps has the drugs to treat me, cars to drive me to the clinic in Niamey, and even money enough to fly me back to America until I’m well…but in that critical moment…we will all face Death with helpless equality.


The funny thing is, throughout my 24 years on Earth, I have developed a pretty solid faith in the immortality of the soul; but this faith has brought me surprising little solace in the face of this tragedy. For me, Death has never been more tangible.


So, acknowledging how tender and short our tenure may be, the next leap of the mind seems painfully obvious… In light of what’s happened and my reaction to it, how can I not ask myself this question: Am I living a meaningful and fulfilling life? Also, what would I change? It reminds me of this poem:


If I had my life to live over,

I'd dare to make more mistakes next time.

I'd relax, I would limber up.

I would be sillier than I have been this trip.

I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances.

I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers.

I would eat more ice cream and less beans.

I would perhaps have more actual troubles,

but I'd have fewer imaginary ones.

You see, I'm one of those people who lived sensibly and sanely,

hour after hour, day after day.

Oh, I've had my moments,

and if I had to do it over again,

I'd have more of them.

In fact, I'd try to have nothing else.

Just moments, one after another,

instead of living so many years ahead of each day.

I've been one of those persons who never goes anywhere

without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute.

If I had to do it again,

I would travel lighter than I have.

If I had my life to live over,

I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall.

I would go to more dances.

I would ride more merry-go-rounds.

I would pick more daisies.


Stephanie, I did not know you well, but I will think of you often and send you light and love across the many folds of the Universe. I hope you are well and at peace. May Allah ease the pain of those who love you so dearly. May Allah show us each other.